A common reply when asking your colleague “How’s it going?” is “Great!” If they answer: “Things are just really falling into place today, family’s wonderful, and health is good for the most part, my boss is a prince, dog got a good report at the vet, got a terrific buy on beee—yuuuu-tee-ful bananas at the market down the street…” Well, you might even avoid conversations with that person. We (whomever that is, maybe not you and me, but then again it could be?) are more within our comfort zone when we are a bit more negative, or maybe more accurately stated: a bit less positive. Like, who could be so damn happy all the time?!
Let’s talk about #3 on the 19-question quiz to see if you have a peaceful workplace. You either answered that Employees complaining about working (and seemingly everything?) either: almost never or sometimes or often. Frequent complaining can certainly can detract from a peaceful workplace!
First, why do people complain? Two reasons. The first is that if we are coming off as appreciating life too much, we’re afraid others will not think we’re working hard enough. And in America, working long and hard is praised on the pedestal. Also most of us don’t care so much if people are jealous of us (some even favor it!), but we don’t want to be perceived as lazy folk who get stuff handed to them on silver spoons. Pioneer pride is perceived as an admirable trait. The second reason is more internal and more potent. If we are celebrating like the character in the above paragraph where everything is going super, and then something devastating occurs (think school shooting), we have less far to fall—then if we are just “Doin’ okay… hangin’ in there…”
People grumble when they feel alone. We should not whine along with them nor especially try to top their murmur! “Oh your Mom died? Yeah, I know how you feel. We lost our fifth cousin who we hadn’t seen in about ten years… to tell you the truth (whispering voice) nobody was really crazy about him in the first pla…”
But we do feel alone—and sad, and afraid. Normal, common, natural, human. Death has a habit of doing that to people. We are afraid of where they are going? And where we are going as well! But death of every kind yields to new life, magical bliss. It’s all good as we say. We just don’t have the money-back guarantee on it (although in the 16th Century, the Catholic Church used to sell indulgences! Wow. SMH). Crap in our lives, problems worthy of complaining is actually productive. Call it spiritual construction at work or something like that.
The less you complain, the less you’ll complain. Growth for evolving into the next life (whatever that means to you, but make sure you aspire to be happy!) is now! So stop complaining, seriously just STOP. You will automatically gravitate towards a spirit of cooperation. And then the third mechanical end result will be collaboration. Clearly there are many more than one way to address a situation. Just as there are many religions. If spirituality is like water,” said the Dalai Lama, “religion is like tea.”
Life will depend less on you and more on the synergy/teamwork/team effort of everyone working together. It is no longer one plus one equals two. It now equals three, four or five! Leverage of resources which makes for exponential progress and productiveness… is God. This partnership with others, this group effort IS PBJ Religion at work. Not only will it furnish you with a super-charged positive PBJ Workplace—but will more importantly convince you just a little bit more that you are on the right track for what life has in store for us, now on earth as we know it… and forever! And the summarizing quote goes to an even more (?) famous philosopher, Buzz Lightyear. “To infinity and beyond!”